While the Marriage War Goes On – A repost for Today

(originally posted April 28, 2014)

So it was a quiet Sunday morning and the “news” shows and “respected journalists” were yammering about whether or not coming out for same sex marriage would help or hurt some particular candidate’s re-election efforts.

“Sixty percent of those polled indicate his stance will have no effect on their vote; 16% said they are less likely to vote for him while”… yadayadayada.

During the last Presidential election,  Mitt, who believes that Joseph Smith really talked to god (or was it the angel Moroni?), Jesus Christ appeared to the native people of North America (one of the 12 tribes ya know) and the Garden of Eden is in Missouri made his opposition quite clear at a commencement at Liberty Bible College.  I wonder if he talked to the prophet in Salt Lake before his pronouncement.  Silly evangelical starry eyed kids cheered, even if they originally protested at having a Mormon at their commencement. I wondered how many in the graduating class were fighting and/or indulging their own sinful “unnatural” lusts.

Evil “secular humanist” socialist that I am, some of these folks strike me as delusional. The scariest part is that one of them was running for President. “When the Constitution is hanging by a thread”…..etc.   Google  “Mormon White Horse prophecy.”

While the fight goes on my married lesbian niece and her partner in Massachusetts live their lives. My niece has a biological daughter (from the “bank”) and her partner also has a biological daughter with the same father,  so the children are half-sisters.  (another child is on the way since this was originally posted.)

They have a lovely home, work every day, pay their taxes, shop for food, service the car, cut the grass, haul wood for the wood stoves, go to church (Unitarians – yeah I know; that don’t count right?), worry about the quality of schools, worry about “having two mommies”, save for college educations, save for retirement, pay their health insurance. etc. They get along with their neighbors, have straight and gay friends, see family regularly and on holidays, even go on vacation once in a while – and bother no one.

Exciting the lesbian life ain’t it?

They have family who love and support them in their life’s quest for happiness. I am among them.

When they married,  this old man got a special call – would I be there? It was important to them. We were there – me and my girls and their men – with bells on. One of the best fun weddings I ever attended.

Should my niece  have lived a lie because other people think she should? Perhaps have married a man and faked it?

I think not, though each of them is lovely and could have easily found a man if that was what they decided. They took the harder road.

Should she live as a second class citizen because someone else thinks she should?

I think not.

So while the “marriage war” goes on, my niece and her partner are creating the new reality.  They did not wait for equality; they claimed it and seized it for themselves.  It is they and couples like them who are leading the way.  They are the boots on the ground.

Meanwhile be assured, if you had any doubt, straight people still get married in Massachusetts.

Twenty five years from now folks will look back and wonder what all the fuss was about – thanks to people like my niece.


Today the United States Supreme Court made marriage equality the law of the land.





About toritto

I was born during year four of the reign of Emperor Tiberius Claudius on the outskirts of the empire in Brooklyn. I married my high school sweetheart, the girl I took to the prom and we were together for forty years until her passing in 2004. We had four kids together and buried two together. I had a successful career in Corporate America (never got rich but made a living) and traveled the world. I am currently retired in the Tampa Bay metro area and live alone. One of my daughters is close by and one within a morning’s drive. They call their pops everyday. I try to write poetry (not very well), and about family. Occasionally I will try a historical piece relating to politics. :-)
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4 Responses to While the Marriage War Goes On – A repost for Today

  1. beetleypete says:

    I was a witness at a ‘civil ceremony’ for a gay male friend, and it was no different to any other civil wedding I have ever attended, (or had myself!) with a happy crowd, all pleased for the couple, and lots of guests of both sexual orientations.
    When I see the protesters in the US on the news, (and recently in Ireland) my first thought is that they should check their calendar. This is the 21st century, not the 17th.
    Best wishes from England. Pete.


  2. sojourner says:

    Anarchy is the only way! True individual freedom, not herd mentality created by a plutocracy/oligarchy!

    I don’t know where I stand on this issue, if someone were to try to pin me down. But I do know this, me not knowing where I stand should never effect some other individual’s freedom! Who am I, god, the universe?

    The collective is fine, as long as the collective recognizes the autonomy of the individual!

    Great post, Frank!


  3. Debunker says:

    I totally agree with you, Toritto. These people are always so certain what God hates or loves. They were equally certain God loved slavery in the 1860s …


  4. jmsabbagh says:

    The liberals are tearing the American family’s fabric to pieces,mothers against daughters ,fathers against sons.In Muslim countries they flog the lesbians and gays to death.Here in This country they have all the freedom they need.In Saudi Arabia the decapitate the lesbians and the gays.Jalal


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