On the Coming of Sorrow

August 30 was a Tuesday and it was the last time I put up a post.  It was about the approach to my eightieth birthday, the vast and eternal universe and how nothing lasts forever.

Not good times.  Not hard times.

The day after I posted those thoughts, I learned that my son-in-law Rob, Pam’s husband, has cancer.

He had been rushed to a local hospital with his left leg turning blue.  Our local hospital could not handle the severity of his illness and our two major hospitals had no bed available.  He was transferred to Orlando on Saturday, September 1.

On Monday, Labor Day, his left leg was amputated at the knee.

He is forty-two years old.

He and Pam had just won parts in an amateur production of MacBeth.  He had the lead; she Witch #2 and an assortment of females.

All of our lives have changed in an instant.  He began chemotherapy the day after the surgery.  He will receive 4 rounds, 3 weeks apart.  And a day later was taken from his bed to begin physical therapy.

His father, who works from home, will stay in Orlando with family.  Pam has returned here and we will visit regularly until he can be transferred to a local facility.

Rob’s father celebrated a birthday on September 8.  Mine was yesterday.  I am now 80 years old. Marie, my grandson Clark, two nephews and Pam had a low-key dinner.

And I tried to remind her that nothing lasts forever – not the good times.  Not the hard times.

About toritto

I was born during year four of the reign of Emperor Tiberius Claudius on the outskirts of the empire in Brooklyn. I married my high school sweetheart, the girl I took to the prom and we were together for forty years until her passing in 2004. We had four kids together and buried two together. I had a successful career in Corporate America (never got rich but made a living) and traveled the world. I am currently retired in the Tampa Bay metro area and live alone. One of my daughters is close by and one within a morning’s drive. They call their pops everyday. I try to write poetry (not very well), and about family. Occasionally I will try a historical piece relating to politics. :-)
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15 Responses to On the Coming of Sorrow

  1. Lakshmi Bhat says:

    Oh God, only 42. I am praying for him and your whole family. I am sure you all will have the strength to face whatever comes your way.

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  2. Maggie says:

    My thoughts and prayers go out to you and your family. I know how difficult the cancer journey is and how far reaching the impacts. I am holding good thoughts for Rob, Pam, and the entire family.

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  3. I am really sorry to read this news. Hopefully, your son in laws prognosis is good. My mother is a breast cancer survivor and my husband had a melanoma. Life is full of adversity, but as you rightly say, all things pass and life always gets better again. Wishing you a wonderful 81st year. My mom is nearly 84.

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  4. I have been trying to find words to say, but I am at a loss. I just hope and pray your son-in-law fully recovers. Sad news just abounds.

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  5. I am so sorry. What a blow to you and your family. Sending healing thoughts your way.

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  6. Jennie says:

    Oh no! Life can change in an instant. I’m so sorry, Frank. Sending healing wishes your way.

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  7. Lauren says:

    I am sorry for the difficult diagnosis. I pray that your son-in-law and family give each other strength as move through this.

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  8. Sending healing thoughts. 💜


  9. vcroman101 says:

    We’ve both been thinking about Rob a lot.


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