Do We Really Care About our Neighbors?

Across the road behind my home

Is there a lack of compassion in America?  Do we really give a rat’s ass about each other?  About strangers? Our neighbors?  When people videotape others being beat, robbed, raped, bullied, drowning, murdered, and offer no help this is a horrible commentary on a society. Civility and kindness are sadly lacking.

Is America is a predatory society, based on the idea of ‘the survival of the fittest. Are we conditioned to see themselves as predators, and others (foreigners and others within their own society) as prey?

Is it why we laud guns, muscle cars, capitalism, low (or NO) taxes, the death penalty, militarized police forces, and pork-barrel politics.?   Why reforms to healthcare, policing, elections, and politics in general, have a hard time finding traction?  Why anything that can be weaponized will be: the judiciary, taxes, voting districts, education, the USPS, zoning, language, school boards, even pandemic countermeasures?

I’ve often thought we are a better people than that; that we were compassionate, kind and caring in general.  That we would come to the aid of our neighbors in need.  And indeed, we see instances of good works after every wildfire, hurricane or tornado in the media.

Then of course we occasionally see the other side that shakes our faith.

There’s a small-town suburb of Orlando, Florida with maybe 2,500 well off folks.  A decent home in this town will run you into the millions of dollars.  A number of sports celebrities live here.  It has fine schools, including one of the best K – 12 private prep schools in Florida, lakes and convenience to downtown Orlando.

Nice people, one would think, right?  Well not all.

I have a good friend who lives in this town.   She is 72 years old with a heart condition and just got over a bout of break through Covid.  She had been indoors for maybe 3 weeks.  Finally testing negative she decided to get her hair cut and stepped outside on the way to her car.

Opening her door, she found a package which had been left by Fedex but which belonged to her neighbor.  Taking the package in hand she began walking the short distance on the sidewalk when she tripped and fell on a section of mis-aligned concrete.

She knocked out several teeth, broke her nose and dislocated her jaw.  She was bleeding profusely from the cuts on her face and in her mouth.  She sat up but could not stand.

So here’s this 72 year-old woman bleeding from the face, sitting on the sidewalk, unable to stand in a million-dollar neighborhood.  Her street was not a traffic thoroughfare but an internal street with homes and light traffic from local residents.

A half dozen cars went by in the next 10 minutes.  She was in plain sight on the sidewalk.


Luckily, she had her phone on her and called herself.  The ambulance found her laying on the sidewalk bleeding.  It took over 25 stitches to sew her up, work on her nose and re-locate her jaw.

Let me put the question to you – what kind of scumbags were driving those cars?  Did they think she was a homeless drunk or crack head?  Or did they just not give a shit?

Nice town.  My ass.


About toritto

I was born during year four of the reign of Emperor Tiberius Claudius on the outskirts of the empire in Brooklyn. I married my high school sweetheart, the girl I took to the prom and we were together for forty years until her passing in 2004. We had four kids together and buried two together. I had a successful career in Corporate America (never got rich but made a living) and traveled the world. I am currently retired in the Tampa Bay metro area and live alone. One of my daughters is close by and one within a morning’s drive. They call their pops everyday. I try to write poetry (not very well), and about family. Occasionally I will try a historical piece relating to politics. :-)
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6 Responses to Do We Really Care About our Neighbors?

  1. beetleypete says:

    That is shocking, Frank. I am glad to say it wouldn’t happen in Beetley. One of my neighbours across the road has just tipped 84 years old. She asked me if I would be the ‘keyholder’ for her localised alarm in case she falls. I did not hesitate to agree. She has no family alive, so how could I not help her? The key to her house is now secure in my house, and she knows full well I would never use it, except in an emergency. In life, you have to always ‘do the right thing’. Or what else is there? No point being a decent human being if you say ‘No’.
    Best wishes, Pete.

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  2. Here compassionate behaviour is organized in clubs. If you are part of them, you are worth o compassion. 😉 It has taken decades to me understanding this very German thing. xx Michael

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  3. Lauren says:

    That’s disgraceful. 😦

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  4. Don Ostertag says:

    Nice town! Nice G D state!
    With all the insane laws Florida has, people are probably fearful to stop and give aid lest they get arrested for helping the less fortunate After all, what help does that G D governor give to anyone? He must be doing things the way Floridians like, he gets elected.

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