Last Friday Washington saw it’s largest pro-life march ever; in fact it was the largest pro-life march the world has seen. Tens of thousands, mostly women, paraded is support of the reversal of Roe v. Wade and the end of the right to choose – to abort if one wishes – in America.
The religious were there in full cry and for the first time a sitting Vice President spoke at the rally. He promised that President Trump would nominate a Supreme Court Justice worthy to follow “the great Justice Scalia.” The hopes of pro-life groups to overturn Roe v. Wade have never been greater.
Now of course no one is forced to have an abortion under the current law and pro-life supporters know that. No. Pro-life groups want to ensure that no one else has that choice either. Pro-life groups want abortion banned for all. Many want it banned in all circumstances including rape, incest and most extreme – including danger to the life of the mother. After all, it is God’s will.
It makes no difference that a clear majority of Americans wish to leave the law as it is with support of the pro-life position hovering at around 37%. On the other hand, a clear majority of American white women voted for Trump and the vast majority of the marchers last Friday were white women.
What’s an old white guy to make of it? It doesn’t affect me directly anymore and my daughters are approaching the end of their child bearing years. I have no grand daughters. so why should I care?
Why not let women and fathers with young daughters and grand daughters fight it out?
On Saturday I read a short quote by a religious, Sister Joan Chittister, OSB, a Benedictine nun.
Those of you who know me or read me are aware that my wife and I lost two sons before we had our two daughters. Our second son lived to be ten years old and was total care all of his life. When he was born we didn’t know our trial was coming; that my wife, the girl I married out of high school, would spend the next ten years of her life caring for a child who would remain forever a quiet infant and die in my arms.
I really don’t need anyone who hasn’t experienced what we went through telling us what a “blessing” it was; that God only sends us the burdens He knows we can carry. It is really easy to say such words when you are not the parents or haven’t gone through anything similar and have no intention of putting yourself out. Hey! Shit happens! Glad it wasn’t me it happened to!!
Today the tests for determining such things are readily available.
What would you do if you found out a Michael was coming your way? What choice would you make? Today you are allowed to make your choice and answer to your own God yourself or to no god at all.
When I was young Sherri Finkbein made her choice. She had to go to Sweden to exercise her choice. You can read about her here:
Those marching last Friday would take that choice away from you and then as Sister Chittister points out, would do little or nothing to to help you. No one helped us. We were entirely on our own and most people today who are profoundly disabled or have profoundly disabled children still are. They do nothing but worry what will happen to their child when they are gone. We did.
I’ll tell you what will happen. Their child’s well being will be in the hands of total strangers. Maybe. There is little empathy in our country today. There is only righteousness.
Not too long ago I wrote a comment on a very conservative website concerning an anti-choice article. I wrote of the trials and heartaches we went through and how the woman I loved gave a decade and a career caring for a child who was not capable of the slightest interaction; a child whose death was a blessing. Not his birth. His death.
I indicated that was why I supported choice. I would condemn no woman, not even one to such heartache and years of agony.
The responses I received contained not one iota of empathy. Not one. “Good thing this guy’s not in charge! Guess he hasn’t read the Constitution!”
To the righteous reading this post I would quote Matthew:
“Then Jesus said to the crowds and to his disciples: 2 “The teachers of the law and the Pharisees sit in Moses’ seat. 3 So you must be careful to do everything they tell you. But do not do what they do, for they do not practice what they preach. They tie up heavy, cumbersome loads and put them on other people’s shoulders, but they themselves are not willing to lift a finger to move them.” Matthew 23.