The Neighbors

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    Our home in the 80s – on the left.

Ten years during the eighties they were our neighbors, Tom, Anna and Jim,  They lived in the house next to ours on Westford Road north of Baltimore. My wife and I plus our three children (then two when Michael passed) in our four bedroom two and half bath plus garage split level home in one of the nicer areas of Lutherville.

I was still a working man while Tom and Anna were retired. Tom had previously had colon cancer but survived with a colostomy.

They were perfect neighbors. Quiet, respectful, took care of their home. Tom and I would talk across the split rails separating our yards. He too was of Italian extraction and we had a lot in common.

Tom and Anna’s one problem was their son, Jim.

Jim was well into his thirties and as Tom explained, he had a “nervous breakdown” as a teen and never fully recovered. I think he was afraid to utter the word “schizophrenia.”   Jim had been “hospitalized” for a while but Tom and Anna could not bear the thought of their teen son living his life in an “institution”.  They did what every loving parent does.  They took him home.

We understood each other.  We had our Michael at home with us.  We too had been told to place him in an institution.  We would have none of it.  We knew the burden and the sorrow.  But we had our two daughters as comfort.  Jim was an only child.

In any case Jim lived at home, was very good natured but clearly unable to live on his own. He walked with an odd gait and, as Tom would relate, do exactly what he was told. If Tom told Jim not to open the door Jim would not open the door. Not for police. Not for an ambulance. Not for firemen.

Tom and Anna deeply loved their son and did nothing but worry about what was going to happen to him when they were gone. We still had Michael at the time so we could sympathize with their plight.

Tom and Jim were always together. Doing yard work, going shopping, going on occasional short trips, going to Mass together.   Jim clearly loved his dad and when I saw them together Jim would give me a big shout-out; “Hi Mr. Frank!!”

Hi Jim. How are you?

“I fine Mr. Frank!! Have a nice day!”

You too Jim.

Tom had become a savvy investor since Jim became ill, trying his best to accumulate some money to leave for the care of his son. We talked investment strategies over the fence and shared tips on specific stocks. Tom was good at it and made more than a few bucks.

A decade went by – I was now around fifty and Tom was in his early seventies. Tom got sick again. This time there was no miracle cure.

Tom passed leaving Anna and Jim.  Anna had a sister in Pennsylvania but otherwise had no family. She was alone.

All the neighbors did what we could to ease her burden.  Jim was inconsolable. His father whom he loved dearly was his only friend. He felt totally alone in the world and worried now about his mom. He would burst into tears thinking about his dad.

So one day I’m sitting in my office and the phone rings. It’s my wife.

She never calls me at the office unless it’s an emergency.

“What happened?”

“Jim hanged himself from the dining room fan”

Anna had run to the store and found him when she came home.

I cried.   The tears streamed down my face as I held the phone.

”Jesus………oh sweet Jesus”.


About toritto

I was born during year four of the reign of Emperor Tiberius Claudius on the outskirts of the empire in Brooklyn. I married my high school sweetheart, the girl I took to the prom and we were together for forty years until her passing in 2004. We had four kids together and buried two together. I had a successful career in Corporate America (never got rich but made a living) and traveled the world. I am currently retired in the Tampa Bay metro area and live alone. One of my daughters is close by and one within a morning’s drive. They call their pops everyday. I try to write poetry (not very well), and about family. Occasionally I will try a historical piece relating to politics. :-)
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5 Responses to The Neighbors

  1. sojourner says:

    I am so sorry for your loss. This sounds so empty, But we both know there are no words adequate enough…

    I have lost a couple of friends in this manner, over the years. And there was nothing anyone could say or do that would ease my pain. I just had to ride it out. It seems that is a big part of life, riding things out?

    Again, I am sorry for your loss.


    • toritto says:

      Sojourner – It has been more than 25 years since Jim’s suicide. Until that time in my life I never knew anyone who ended it all or anyone who had even tried to commit suicide.

      It made a lasting impression on my soul. Every now and then I think of him.



      • sojourner says:

        I apologize, I guess I didn’t get it was that long ago.

        But I know, with those I lost, it still is painful when remembering!


  2. carolahand says:

    A beautiful and heart-breaking story. So many people struggle alone, even when surrounded by people who care.


  3. toritto says:

    Carol – Indeed. I think of Jim every now and then. Regards.


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